” You can’t teach children to behave properly by making them feel worse.When children feel better they behave better”Pam Leo
I have often heard parents saying my child doesn’t listen to me and he/she is very stubborn at some point in time and this is the point where I lose cool. That is the common challenge that even the best of the parents face. Remember at the age of 2-3 years the toddlers have a firmer grip on themselves and they can experience various feelings and emotions. So it is our responsibility to gauge their feeling and reinforce positive behavior from them. Various articles have been written and various research has been done to explore different strategies to discipline a toddler. However, with my personal experience, I found some of the best strategies that work which would be as follows.
Being on same ground
The first and foremost requirement is to prepare each one in your family and bring them to common ground when it comes to discipline toddlers. It is often seen the grandparents don’t want a kid to be scolded or punished. That’s where the major challenge is. For e.g the other day my son wanted chocolate from a store where I went shopping for groceries. I said no to him and explained to him that you already had one which is the rule right. My son was cranky but still, I would have managed but then came his Grandmother and gave the chocolate to him which I resisted but now the bullet has been misfired and I was helpless in getting it back to the gun. So you see my son knows now if I don’t give me anything he has another choice in his grandmother. My rules made for him had been good enough if somebody has not tried to break it for him. So it is of utmost importance to explain and make understand all in your family that when a rule has been made then it has to be conveyed to the child in action or words in the same way as it is. A child needs consistent discipline, so talk with your partner, family members, and child care provider to set basic rules everyone follows.
Model proper BEHAVIOR
Every parent is the first teacher to their child. The child learns by watching what you do. Teach children what is right and wrong by modeling the same in your behavior. For e.g, if you yell at each-other you will pass on a message to your child that it is ok to yell which sooner or letter you will see in your child’s behavior. So do right to let the child learn the right.
Explain them the consequences
Calmly explain to them the consequences of their good or bad behavior. Give them some reward for their good behavior it can be anything like clapping, appreciation, and any of the favorite things he likes. This will prompt him to be good at his behavior. On the other hand for any bad behavior explain to them what they can be devoid of like toys etc.this will help him realize that If I do this I will be not given my favorite toys so that will prompt him to indulge less in bad behavior.
Time-out is the condition when your child breaks any rules made by you and you ask him to sit for a minute in the corner of the house where he feels a little scared. It could be for 1 or 2 minutes. This will give him a warning signal each time he breaks the rule. The repeat occurrence for breaking any rule will get lessen. This strategy can help the child learn and practice self-management skills.
Give them attention
According to research, some children only receive 7 minutes of one on one time a day from their parents. Make sure that you are not one of those parents. Have an engaging time with your child every day.Play with them does some tasks with them. Put aside all your distractions for that period.Listen to them. The more the child feels engaged with you the more he will have bonding with you and more he will listen to you.
Parenting is a very daunting task if you make it but if you follow simple rules that task appears so beautiful. Just remember a child is still a child so try leaving some rooms for them to make mistakes and enjoy. Only No doesn’t have an answer but sometimes Yes can also do wonders.